Your children are going to send naked photos or not: that's how you can help them

¿Tienes hijos? ¿Están en una edad cercana a la adolescencia? ¿Te preocupa que estén en un momento en que quizá usen su móvil para algo más que chatear? ¿Te aterra pensar que ya se han hecho fotos desnudos o semidesnudos y han enviado dichas fotos a otras personas? ¿Temes que esas fotos vayan más allá de sus destinatarios originales y acaben inundando internet? En definitiva, ¿temes que tus hijos sean víctimas del 'sexting'?

If you have responded to everything, there is something you can do: garlic and water.Or said more empathically, there is little or nothing you can do.According to the most recent study made in Spain, 30.6% of adolescents have ever sent a video or a photo of them naked or half -naked to another person, a figure that amounts to 5two.8% if we analyze how many have sent aSexual content message, either with photos, videos or simply text.

In summary accounts: you cannot do anything to prevent your son or daughter from doing 'Sexting', but you can help them to make the experience as sure as possible and prevent their photos from ending up large -scale on a large scale.Believe us: if you think there are parents who give condoms to their children to avoid pregnancies, with the 'sexting' the philosophy must be the same.Here are some tips for this:

The mere fact of thinking that your children take naked photos and send them to their partner, their league or a simple stranger, and it is a quite understandable feeling, the truth, but not for that reason it is the most practical.Think for a second like the teenager you were: what will happen if your parents insist on prohibiting something that produces a tremendous curiosity and a high sexual emotion?Are you going to listen to them?Well that.

In the worst case, your anger or your prohibition will even be counterproductive: it will be enough for them to do this kind of thing so that they do even more.It is important that you are aware that your opinion is worth it here: if you really want to help your children, be empathic, halls (without threats) of the possible risks, the appropriate precautions are noted and, in case they arise problems, help them.

This should be very clear to your children: if they are going to do 'Sexting', that is voluntarily, not obliged.If the 'sexting' is practiced by your child, it is more or less likely to have been voluntarily, since "they are the significantly most active as to send erotic-sexual messages," says noise.However, if it is your daughter, there are more chances that he does not do it for his own will, but after having received pressures from his partner, a friend or the environment himself.

At that age teenagers usually have a need for external acceptance than at other ages, and if we add that your daughter is going to be a victim of a prevailing machismo (yes, your daughter will be more harassed than your child, leaveto indign you and keep reading), it will not be so easy for the pressures to resist.But make him see, as far as possible, that she is the owner of her body, and she is her, and no one else, who must decide if she wants to photograph himself naked and send the photo to another person.

If you discover that your daughter has sent your sexual videos to other people, or even if you discover that this material has begun to circulate through the Internet, do a favor to it and yourself: do not blame it, it is quite already with the one who goesTo fall on top so that their parents, the only adults who will always have close, join the lynching.

In addition, if your daughter has sent a naked photo to a person and have ended up seeing another 500, what is she blamed, exactly?What if, instead of telling your daughter not to send naked photos to anyone, you tell your child not to press his girlfriend to send photos or that, if he receives a photo, he does not have to share it with absolutelynobody else?Or that if your girlfriend sends a naked photo and subsequently ask you to delete it, you must erase it?Or that if you get forwarded a photo of a third person, instead of continuing to send it to more people, you have to erase it?

If your daughter sends a naked photo to her boyfriend and he spreads her, he is the only culprit of what happens

If the moral argument that we have just given has not convinced you, nothing happens, we go to the prison.According to article 197.7 of the Criminal Code, "will be punished with a prison sentence of three months to one year or fine of six to twelve months who, without authorization of the affected person, disseminates, reveals or gives to third parties audiovisual images or recordings of the one thatI would have obtained with its consent at an address or anywhere else outside the reach of third parties' gaze ".Translated, this means that it doesn't matter if your children receive a sexual photo consented: if they spread it, they will be committing a crime.

The same will happen in case they receive a photo of third parties and continue to forward it: they will end up responding before the law.Of all this equation, do you know which is the only person who has not done anything wrong or committed a single crime?The one who took the photo, sent it and now she has to endure that the Internet sees her naked, so you don't macha it too.

You have already assumed that your children will take sexual photos regardless of what seems to you, right?Well, now is the time that, when you talk to them, you are transferred - with the greatest possible empathy - some tips that will help them prevent possible scares:

We repeat: If your children's photos end up spreading through the Internet, the fault will never be yours.But if you really want to help them avoid it, the advice we have just detail may be very useful.

We hope this never happens, but let's imagine that your children's sexual photos and videos end where they should not: disseminated throughout the institute, stored in Internet forums or even hung on porn pages.First of all, remember point 3: do not blame the victim.It has enough with what happened to him so that his parents also become his enemies.

Then, if you want to report the situation, do it.Go to the nearest police station or denounce it through the Telematic Crimes Group of the Central Operational Unit of the Civil Guard.In addition, keep the messages that your daughter has exchanged with the diffuser of her images, since they will be essential for a trial.As we say, all this will not assure you 100% that your sexual photos or videos disappear from the Internet, but at least you will get the culprit to leave Rositas.

PS: As you will see, in this article we have used, in a generic way, the girl as a victim and the boy as guilty.Why?Five minutes will be enough for you to find one, two, three, four and up to five studies that show that, in cases of 'Sexting' and Sextorsion, the victims are mostly girls, while the culprits are mostly boys.If you are more outraged that we have used this 'generalization' than the possibility that your children can be victims or guilty of sexants crimes, there we can no longer help you.