The consequences of abuse

These are the testimonies of some of the 41 women who denounce sexual abuse in the Spanish Catholic Church when they were girls and adolescents in the report with 281 victims that the country has prepared.They suppose 14.6% of those affected.Everyone is investigating the Church after this newspaper was delivered to the Vatican early month and the president of the Spanish Episcopal Conference.In total, these women accuse 36 members of the clergy, which represents 14.3% of all denounced in the study (251).The Spanish Episcopal Conference hasded the report and reproaches that an alleged lack of rigor "makes it difficult to draw conclusions that can serve a possible investigation".

The data that arose from that research is strong, but what most captivated the readers were the testimonies of the people who were victims of sexual violence by the clergy.María Teresa Compte, president of Bethany, an association for the reception and accompaniment of the victims explained the feelings that persist, years and decades after each abuse.“It is common for women who have lived these types of aggressions to assimilate that they suffered them.This is due to the fact that when talking about abuses within the Church, we usually talk about victims boys, not girls.Of every 10 minor victims three are girls, ”he contributes to a study in Spain.The consequences of sexual abuse are lived throughout life.The year that happened, actor Toto Kirzner, son of Araceli González and Adrián Suar related how he had suppressed the memories of the abuse he had suffered and how, after having been abused, he bathed several times because he felt "dirty".

In women, they explained in one of the notes published in the country, abuses deeply damage their maternal instinct.“Victims experience difficulties when maintaining pleasant and full sex.Everything, due to the inability to give or receive affection that usually derives from this type of violence ”.

The stories of women victims of sexual abuse, compiled by the journalists of the newspaper are strong and pose the consequences and trauma that generates such a child in a child, throughout their lives."I have recognized too late that I have trouble hugging me loved people," explained one of the victims of the city of Bilbao."How is it possible to confess an eight -year -old girl for her sins, while you are putting a hand?";"I have not overcome it, and the worst thing is that you end up believing that it is your fault";“When I divorced, I saw that I couldn't stand that nobody touched me.You carry it inside until it explodes ”;"I will always remember his voice, and panic, disgust and shame that made me feel";"In the midst of an exam, my shirt raised myself and unbuttoned my bra, while stroking my neck and arms";"When the existence of girls, adolescents and adult women is not recognized, it is more difficult for them to recognize themselves and be able to break the silence".

“Only who goes through a traumatic experience can know in his own body what it is to live dissociated, disconnected and relive continuously sensations of disgust, freezing and rejection in their relationships of the present, despite the fact that the years have passed the years.They are sensations that were recorded in the body and shoot automatically, ”said other victims.

Last November, La Gaceta published a note about the importance of detecting in children the signals that could indicate a case of abuse."Adults who are close to the child are the ones who must be attentive to this but, of course, the child's age depends," explained the psychologist Martín Alomo.“The boy starts doing things that did not do before: at school it changes from bank, group, it becomes someone hostile if it was not, the performance varies.While in the house the habit of sleep, game and humor is modified ".

"Assistance and accompaniment will depend on the moment in which this comes to light.Usually, this usually happens late, after the fact is perpetrated, days, weeks or years later.The therapeutic accompaniment that is always good, will come as an assistance to emergency or as a post -traumatic treatment, ”said the author of“ Living better ”.

Each person, the specialist explained, will have different consequences before a case like this."It will depend on how it has affected it.A psychological treatment begins with a diagnosis and then there is a prognosis.In the first one the damaged aspect is evaluated in a certain personality profile.There are people who are very strong in certain situations and in the same situation others are more weak ”.Is that the path of a person who suffered abuse is full of uncertainty and feelings found.In this context, the family and the intimate circle of the person who lived abuse becomes essential.

Children's abuses are today a transversal problem to society, it goes through all social classes.The investigation of abuses in the church that the country began in 2018 has counted so far 602 cases and 1.237 victims since the thirties.A pot that was already uncovered in other countries and must be vigorously repudiated in every corner of the globe.With boys and girls, no.