“If you are dedicated to a compliment, why trustee?Thank you! "

‘Look’ and ‘Fall in love’

Andrea is known to her students and customers well, and also the readers of the avant -garde (for her collaborations), and the viewers of the last three editions of OT, as a social treatment teacher, protocol...And of the most elementary urbanity: “They thank me to teach them to greet without waiting for a response, to thank, endure a door, let another one in the tail of the Super box...".Andrea (www.Andrea Vilallonga.com) knows about little things that make life more pleasant.I ask why she calls her husband cactus: “He teaches me not to alter. Él me llama San Bernardo , porque corro al rescate del que tenga un problema".That is why he has written look and fall in love (Aguilar), full of good help.

Tell me a childhood scene.

I am nine years old and I prepare the dinner to my parents.

Why choose this scene?

Because it's what I'm still looking for today: that others are fine.I wanted my parents to feel comfortable.

What happened to them?

They argued, separated and readjountless, and I sought to be fine.

He got it?

At eleven years I was admitted to the nuns in Perpignan.I disliked, but then there were four very happy years.

What did you learn there?

That there are hard realities: I lived with daughters from fairies, difficult families...Since the second year, I helped the new ones as I could.

He left there with fifteen years, right?

Yes, and with a fixation: Be an actress!What disgusted for mom: she loved me in New York, working as a translator in the UN and living with a lesbian woman.

Has a lesbian woman said?

It was his fantasy for me.I broke schemes.

How?

I went to France, I entered a theater group, I threw a musician boyfriend and got pregnant with him: I was 18 years old.

Take now.

I, delighted.Until we decided to come to Barcelona, for me to grow as an actress...

Wasn't the thing right?

A disaster, did not leave works, I had to sing on mix albums, bend porn...Anxiety led me to anorexia nervosa and depression.

Big words.

It lasted three years.A psychologist saved my life, who made me be in underwear.

So that?

To learn to see me. “¿Qué tal, Andrea?", me preguntó. “Yo muy bien", repliqué, desafiante. “Mira tus manos", me dijo.I looked: I had tight fists!She caught me in panties.

Never better said.

Ese día hice “clic": empecé a verme, y a ayudarme. Me relajé, y pude preguntarme: “¿Qué quiero hacer de verdad?".

Help others, right?That has told me.

I learned makeup, to help in the external aspect...And there I discovered something important.

What?

Women whose appearance improved them, when looking in the mirror...They were not seen!

They were not seen? What does it mean?

They only saw what they didn't like.I pointed to the good, and...They only saw what they didn't like.

And that has a remedy?

That's what I dedicate to me!It's about changing your look, and communicating well with yourself.

How do you start?

The first thing is to want it, of course. ¿Te dices mucho a ti mismo “mira que soy tonto, lo hago todo al revés, vaya desastre, a ver si te fijas"?

Wow, how do you know that?

Because we usually talk to ourselves very badly.That must be corrected, and now!And you have to start accepting the compliments.

Don't we accept them?

Los rechazamos, los desvalorizamos: “Tú, que me ves con buenos ojos", decimos.And what, as if that were bad!Say thanks!

I will do it, he is right.

Y a veces desconfías: “¿Qué querrá este de mí?", piensas.And what, makes you a gift!Take it!And say thanks. Una amiga me dijo: “Es que solo me lo dicen los feos".And what, aunt?

Are we going with the second lesson?

“El cerebro humano es velcro para lo negativo, y teflón para lo positivo", enuncia el neuropsicólogo Rock Hanson.We have to train the positive attitude, as in a sport.

And can I become an positivity medalist athlete?

The first: stop counting misery.Look more at what you have to do.And think it is impossible for a very bad day not to contain something good: try to see it!

You have to be optimistic, let's.

It's not that!Optimistic is the one who trusts that it will be fine;positive is the one that acts to go well.Thus, I am a positive pessimistic: I don't know if everything will go, but I move my ass!

Do you have tricks?

Yes, I carry my positivity diet: Listen to a beautiful song, drink a cold bitter, call another and ask how it is...

Do you have any inspiring motto?

“Acepta lo que ves, quiere lo que eres".And only then will you understand why the other interacts with you.

Does it also serve in couple crises?

You usually point to the other with the index, but...Look at: There are three fingers turned towards you!So analyze your own responsibility.

Maybe we shouldn't self -ex -chief so many things...

I wanted my daughter, I don't know how many goals... y ella “solo" ha querido ser maestra de niños.And today, doing that, it's immensely happy!My daughter there, then, gave me a lesson.

Like your mother, remember!

Well, yeah it's true.My daughter has left her father, always calm, and happy with her music: at age 18 I saw an advertisement on a plank asking for a singer.I introduced myself.And today he and I continue together, we still sing together.